All eyes always turn towards you no matter where you are. Men have been deemed and a few I know, as High Maintenance. I completely agree with you here. As a midlife bachelor, you are probably in the peak of your earning years - and assuming that you have not lost everything in your divorce, you can probably afford one of these high maintenance women. They're lots of fun when you're out on the town together, but for every hour of showing off, there are another 10 spent on upkeep and repair behind the scenes. Also, it seems a lot of guys write off these women in words but are they are almost always the ones that get the most attention. I remember thinking that I could date a handful of ordinary women for the same money.
Despite it usually being a term infuriatingly reserved for women, it seems plenty of men folk are seriously demanding in relationships. What's the deal with that? Does she often send back food in restaurants if it's not exactly to her liking? And not all men can be with her. Plus this woman did not put out - and at first that pissed me off. Who wants to remain stagnant?! Or, to use a more stereotypically masculine metaphor, a high-maintenance woman is kind of like a motorcycle that constantly requires repairs and adjustments to function right. You go to a function, and half the men in the room have slept with her, the other half will when you are done. If a small family could live in your closet.
In many ways, high maintenance is subjective. Apparently having had a messed up childhood and adult life at times as well as many physical health problems means I am automatically high maintenance because I come with tons of baggage. However, not everyone needs active social circles. Everyone deserves to be treated with equal respect. I'm not saying any of this is bad - it is just something to consider when evaluating a potential new girlfriend.
It works for things that require more attention than their alternatives, perhaps. Also, it seems a lot of guys write off these women in words but are they are almost always the ones that get the most attention. Keep in mind that a man that can afford to pamper you is not always the best choice for you in the long run. To use a feminine metaphor, a high-maintenance woman is like long, thick hair and bangs that requires a lot of time, attention, and maintenance. High maintenance girls and tiny, well-groomed foo-foo yip-yap dogs go hand in hand.
Read what a young man of 26, whom I'll call Michael, thinks High Maintenance women are when he was asked the question. So I assumed it had more to do with providing her the clothes or money to get hair and nails did. One woman may not care about makeup, manicures, pedicures, massages, highlights in her hair, fine jewelry, luxurious suites at their vacation destination, or being catered to and pampered. The author is a Forbes contributor. I'm sweating when i'm running on the treadmill like zombies are chasing me, i don't care how my face looks or how big my assets are looking, i'm running from effing zombies.
I tend to put everyone before myself and love taking care of people. Was recently told i should have them lasered off because they are grey-blue now. Page 1 of 2 High maintenance women are like high maintenance sports cars. She puts great effort into looking great, so when it pays off, more power to her! While discussion and brainstorming is necessary and healthy, high maintenance people feel the need to use their co-workers as ad hoc life advisors and coaches; however they have little desire or motivation to actually hear and take the advice they receive. If you're still making payments on your last plastic surgery.
Every piece of email needs to be copied to someone in authority and every action needs to be passed by the boss before they proceed. I know I have it together because my success, career, and relationships have taken years to shape. She never looks at the price tags when she has your credit card in her wallet. Nothing is more rewarding than turning a negative pattern around. They have no sense of intelligence or logic either.
Refuses to walk anywhere 15. Money will not buy you happiness. All genders, orientations, and relationship types welcome. In short, it's less about her having to maintain herself than it is about me having to maintain her. This could mean financially, as in the case of always having to buy her jewelry or taking her out to dinner every other night, or it could mean personally, as in having to abandon friends for her.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a trophy girl on your arm if that is going to make you happy. For marriage material, it needs to be an attractive, educated, but modest young lady. Every small inconvenience or mistake becomes a crisis. So, it might have more to do with compatibility than anything else. So many opinions, facts, theories and possibilities. It's not until men date them for a few months or years , and realize the negative impact that their neediness is having on them, that they understand these are not the kinds of women they want. And other negative traits accompany vanity, such as being a spendthrift; she may blow huge wads on things like manicures, self-tanning, and keeping up with each and every trend.
And yes, I carry her with me sometimes. Think of the amount of maintenance applied to a car. Women are high maintenance, whereas men are possessive, but in reality I think this is very much the same thing. She gives her hairdresser and plastic surgeon nicer birthday gifts than she gives you. Just treat everybody else as you want to be treated.