Have you ever known me to attack you before? I really dont want it for my future if there even is one with him. Fast forward a month and he was smoking up to five times a week. His mother did eventually tell me about a year before she passed away, and my boyfriend always mentioned his dad can be 'weird' but I never really thought anything of it. There is no link between schizophrenia and weed or any other drug though some drug experiences are thought to possibly trigger the onset. With weed I have never met a stoner that regularly gives up responsibilities just to get high. Only him will benefit by feeling high not me.
Neither of you is happy because this is still a deal breaker for both of you. Like I really just don't want to see him become addicted further because he really is having a hard time cutting back already. I really love him and care deeply for him. I just don't like seeing him high on poptarts every evening. Our dealer only has what he has, but the quality is pretty uniform across time. Get lost in your self not drugs.
I want to marry her. Please respect people's addictions and problems with addictions. I love him more than anything in the world but I feel like at some point I have to put my foot down and get the respect I deserve. Alcohol for me is definitely a depressive experience. I put my foot down and said no weed around me and he was ok with it at first, until night came and he wanted a hit.
I believe his dad doesn't take any medication and relies on weed and alco to alcoholhelp him through his bad days, where he becomes very paranoid and delusional. I quit on my own when I got pregnant. The point really is to commit to keeping your word, if you gave it, to best of your abilities. A bunch of hypocrites judging away while blithly explaining away their own substance abuse — i. Is there a way I can go about smoking more frequently that will make you more comfortable? Wendy is right, she needs to make a better argument to her husband. Weed somewhat has been a priority for him. And that is a dependency, no matter whether you believe the addiction is harmful or not.
But this is the outlet he has chosen. Literally every stoner I've ever known will just smoke, watch a movie, jam out, eat, and relax. However, if you want to give him more chances, you need to start attending Nar-Anon group meetings. And whether its ridiculous which my boyfriend thinks , or not, its how I feel. I know that he smokes less now that we are serious but it is still a problem and it seems like he wants to smoke it every day. Such an well written piece.
It sounds like counseling could do him a lot of good if he is willing. If so, then the ability to cut back would annoy me. Honestly picture yourself in years from now and ask yourself if youd be happy in this same situation? The thought of being in a relationship where someone tries to tell me what to do gives me the skeeves. If you are ripping bong hits and acting a lazy stoned high school fool, yes that is a problem but that would be the equivalent of me drinking a bottle of wine every night which I think we can all agree is a huge problem vs. It is absolutely possible to be addicted to weed — psychologically, at least — so if this gets off to a rough start, he should look around for groups in the area that can provide support. There's definitely a genetic component to schizophrenia, but the actual numbers aren't too scary. Why do you want it? He could very well never reach that point.
He can't go a day sober, he thinks he's cooler when he's high. If he has grown up with a schizophrenic father that self medicates with alcohol and weed he probably has a lot of childhood trauma on top of his grief over his mother. They get shakes, itchy, and other physical symptoms. I'm feeling so alone becuase I cannot talk or hang out with my best friend you know? With the bad mentality I had of this drug, I bursted into tears once I found out my girl smoked it. Ariel, Your story is very similar to mine. As I am in the midst of seeing him as of late this article helped. A lot of people self medicate with weed so that may not be a side effect of quitting.
They become paranoid, obsessive,jealous and in some cases violent. Why would you think he would be a different person just because he done married you? I just wish there was a simple way to handle things, but there never is. If done responsibly it's really not bad, it's actually quite fun, maybe you should try it with him sometime. That he really stop smoking like he promised? I can understand that he enjoys this and it probably has helped him grieving. I have the exact same issues, so thank you for sharing. Just know that if he's trying to quit for you instead of for himself, it's unlikely he'll succeed for the long term.
I think this does sort of alter the way advice would be given in this situation because she is okay with some level of smoking and was willing to compromise. Maybe I am a horrible, shitty, untrustworthy person. Thanks masivmunky for your post. But I am imagining not seeing him a lot and it breaks my heart. I have always been an athlete…. My friends always said having sex while high on weed was so good that you shouldn't do it, because you wouldn't enjoy sober sex as much. Use of marijuana can definitely trigger psychotic symptoms in people with existing disorders, though, especially when poorly managed.