I have huge feelings for him — what do I do to keep him interested and hopefully get him to think of moving back here? It is not a good way for me to spend my days. Or just take it as a sign that he's just not that into me right now? I think too much of these things and it gets me crazy. They text long paragraphs with lots of abbreviations and repeatedly before he has a chance to respond. I found he would text me first 90% of the time, would say he missed me lots etc. Now it's been 12 days and nothing. Men connect emotionally through sex, they don't feel loved unless there is sex, so I've heard. Sometimes the simplest of actions on our part and lead to such anguish within us, complete with second-guessing and beating ourselves up if we can't honestly accept the reality that it doesn't matter, and a simple action on our part like a phone call or a text that isn't returned, is absolutely not worth our own peace of mind.
What she needs more than anything else is to be heard - to feel heard - and to know that someone is there for her. He said, if you do not want to go out as agreed with his friends, then he has to go they are waiting for him. We went on a first date we planned it for months but never got it because he was busy in college as a senior and a scholar in sch So we went out he kept on eye contact with me the whole time we were together and kept on smilling had physical contact. Sounds like you already know your own answer. Yet the situation is still the same.
I'm sure the answer you're going to give me is that he's moved on and that's why he hasn't tried calling me. Dear Jane, I met a man on eHarmony; he initiated contact and pursued our building a relationship. He absolutely had to come see me. Shortly, he left on Jan30 for a 5days work trip whereby I initiated the text to check if he arrived safely. She first discovered her passion for writing at the age of 10 when she began filling notebooks with poetry. You sound like a very sweet, sincere person.
It's not about just getting married and having children. It's isn't always because we guys don't care or losing interest. What if he gets angry and thinks I'm selfish? If anything that should make me feel better, but it doesn't because I just don't understand why he doesn't want me there. If you find yourself thinking, should I text him, usually the answer is no. Advice me please Hello, I have been friends with this guy for about 6 years now. It's never as personal as we make it out to be.
We walked, side by side, silently, a bit embarrassed, and I instinctively took his hand. It's a journey to know yourself, to find out who you really are - especially when you've gotten so used to being what everyone else has wanted you to be and you've gotten so used to living for everyone else except yourself. This past weekend was his weekend with the kids. I knoe there is a strong connection for both of us, but for one mos. From time to time he goes 2 days without calling me, sometimes a week and just texting hi, how are you? So my thoughts are: It seems to me that he is a very good person and that he's very open and tolerant. His online activities, combined with minimal contact, but last contact being loving and positive, could be seen as ominous or unremarkable, depending upon one's perspective. Just leave the rest upto him.
It took us so long to meet because he is always out of town on business. I respect all answers because they come from the heart, experience, and very intelligent minds. Just stay busy and miss him a little all the sweeter, when he comes home. He also argued that he was not used to be committed to someone anymore, and that such things are not in his habits. It's as though he's removed himself from my life. Of course we feel needy when we've been with ones who have left us; of course we feel fearful when we've been with ones who've left us after we opened our hearts to them and fell in love with the idea of them and - even if we were the only ones who could see it.
Jane, Good advice to Anna. But after analysing our relationship, there were certain vagueness that I just notice. When I travelling without him for a month I e-mailed him several times a day. I asked him why and he told me that it was an emergency. He has, in fact, spent time online and just decided not to contact me for whatever reason. Since I didn't know 100% if that is what he really said I didn't say anything back.
I would play it cool, be extremely busy with friends, and I would send one message to him every other day. But once a week, just a simple e-mail. Thanks for your kind words, Kathleen; I had to learn so much of this the hard way so your words take me back to a different time in my life as well. I will try to act as if nothing had happened but I'm very bad at pretending things!! We always see each other every weekend since he invites me. Nothing but confusion and texts. So, thinking oh, he seems to be very nice and I was attracted to him. Don't wait around to see what he does or doesn't do; live your life without worrying about him or what he's going to do.
I have since learned he withdraws from people when he is stresses and he is very moody and has a short temper, becomes aggressive during a dissagreement. Not every day but certainly at least once a week, unless I was on a trek that was longer than that. There is no question here, just sharing my situation with a stranger is helping me. Something someone told you that you should be or do. After he canceled, we texted normally for about another day before we stopped. Focus on you, on why you put up with this kind of treatment of you for so long and who he represents to you. I met a man on match.